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People often ask me questions about dating, love and relationships and I had an epiphany about my own single life when I was still single and dating. In my latest book, Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I Was Single, I share some of my experiences as a single woman and reflect on some of the decisions I made and the growth that took place, with the hope that I will inspire others going through similar situations.

Now, after recently celebrating seven years of marriage, I felt led to share something passionate, real and from my heart for my single sisters but in a shorter format. I don’t claim to have an answer for every question, and even as a happily married woman, I’m still learning. However, I’m older now and have learned a great deal through my personal experiences and even through the experiences of others.

Of course I could go on for days, but for now I decided I’d share with you my personal top 10 list.

1. Practice self-love before you accept love from someone else.

It’s difficult to love someone else if you can’t first love yourself. Usually the way we allow others to treat us is a reflection of how much, or how little, we love and value ourselves. I realized a long time ago that my unhealthy search for love was because of my own lack of self-love and self-esteem. I relied on others to do what I couldn’t do for myself. Learn how to be single and satisfied so you don’t end up totally dependent on someone else.

2. Let it Flow.

“Every potential date is not a potential mate.” We don’t have to be so serious so soon especially if it’s only been a few months, let alone a few weeks. I used to think, “Oh, since the date went well then maybe he’s my husband,” or I would obsess about the status of our relationship only after a short time. Sometimes we psych ourselves out of a good thing by trying to force something to happen, and sometimes it’s a turn-off to guys. Just let the conversations and natural progression of the relationship flow. That’s not to say that you should wait on someone forever; but if it feels right and it’s flowing right, then play it cool and let it happen.